An Ambivert Life Today

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Despite being in the middle of the outbreak self quarantines, humans as individuals are showing true color of themselves. Okay maybe day 2 or day 3 we are still as happy as others to spend some time in our home. But when 3 days are passed or even more, some of us are trying their best to keep themselves sane, while others are still enjoying these solitaire days.

These two categories are mainly known as extroverts and introverts. I won't tell further because I do believe all of you are already expert in these person characteristics. But what is keeping in grey area among society is of course, the ambiverts.

I know that the so called ambivert is not really a thing in MBTI ranks. It's not even a formal character. Me, for instance, I am an INFJ -- yes I took the MBTI test several times and the result always the same! -- but I consider myself an ambivert, or a person who have both of extrovert and introvert sides. Although some sources are claiming INFJ is the most extroverted among the introverts. I think this opinion is based on how we are genuinely -- ok maybe it's a bit sarcasm -- care enough with other people problems, in a good way of talking. But actually we are all good at some things and not so much at others. Like I said earlier, for example, the INFJs could be very quiet in an unfamiliar social condition.

SOMEHOW RECHARGING

At this challenging times, we as an ambiverts are often find it recharging. Admit it, our willingness to interact with others are not our first to-do-list everyday. Yes we care with people, I mean, we can be a good listener, and keeping our mouths shout as long as we want. But we have moments sometimes when we just don't feel like talking and just a touch and go interration. Sometimes we are just too lazy to even start a conversation. And honestly, we also don't know why. We just not feeling like it.

BUT ALSO LONGING

But deep deep in our soul, we long for it. We long for meaningful conversation with our best friends, face to face. We miss how close we are with those who we deeply trust. The key words here are best friends and close relations. Yes, we might try so hard when the conditions are forcing us to be in front of new people. We are feeling self concious, and if you don't really know us, we are oftenly captured as shy persons. But no, we want to, sometimes, to act and talk louder but it is hard to keep our words straight. It's just we need time and how we build our trust in others. Although ambiverts are considered to be adaptive persons, honestly we are quite picky in investing our time and invite those who is worthy enough within our circle.

AND OFTENLY DREAMING

Because we are more like head-in-the-clouds type. And no, I'm not talking about the album. We daydream a lot. We analyze everything. We cannot shut our brain off. We always overthink anything. Even all of those monologues in our head are simply just in our head. With these solitary condition, we need to keep ourselves sane sometimes. Yes we tend to think about anything and it is so various depending on our moods.

BUT WE APPRECIATE OUR ME-TIME

But when we already fulfill our social needs, say it like do some video calls or being chatty in social medias, we crave for being alone. Some time, we find it so needy to have a social life, but other times, we're just as exhausted as the introverts for being exposed in others too much. Yes we need to collect ourselves again. When doing our me-time, it's a priority to do it right. We love being social, but we appreciate ourselves more.

WE ARE AN OPEN LINE

For closing this quarantine time, for ambiverts, we tend to be available for those who really in needs especially our loved ones. Whenever you have your problems, we tend to listen and observe first. When extroverts are always giving advices right away, and introverts love to listen, we ambiverts are trying to cope the issues and always try to balance it. But don't get me wrong. We love an honest suggestions. We do not sugarcoat words, we just simply want to build a more comfortable condition.

At last, this is only based on my opinions and some ambivert sources (healthline and odyssey)

Feel free to share in your views what is an ambivert life today! Ciao